There’s a special subset of women who get a bad rep because they’re not the bubbly, outwardly girly, let’s-share-our-feelings type of characters. They largely keep to themselves, don’t show much affectation and are frequently written off as cold bitches by other women and men.
These ladies, however, are anything but heartless brutes. In fact, they possess a much deeper, purer kind of character because it’s kept hidden from view so often.
These are the women who deal with their problems on their own and don’t like going to people when they’re upset.
They’re the ones who act like they don’t care but are very tuned into the conversation. They’re like the pragmatic, methodical Amy from “Gone Girl” (minus the psychotic part).
This nuanced intrigue is what makes an unemotional woman. She’s not the slanderous misnomers we liken her to.
Her subtlety is also her biggest attraction. And when you fall for her, you’ll feel like you’ve never met someone so entirely her own person. Here are the 11 reasons why you should date an unemotional woman:
1. She doesn’t want to talk about her feelings
Unemotional women aren’t completely devoid of emotions (read: we aren’t sociopaths), they just don’t want to sit in a circle, taking turns discussing their inner feels. They’d simply rather move on from them or tackle them alone.
2. She won’t put on airs to make herself feel better
She doesn’t feel the need to fake it around people or do something dramatic to improve her mood. She doesn’t seek out attention to draw away from her problems, or spiral out of control.
Because she’ll keep her downtrodden spirits to herself, an unemotional woman is the easiest and yet hardest friend to have.
3. She doesn’t care what people say about her
She cares more about how she would describe herself. For this reason, unemotional women are confident and remain unaffected. They’ll take the blame for a friend and ownership of their actions because they don’t get upset by what other people think of them.
4. She’s not great at comforting others
It’s not that she doesn’t care about your feelings — she isn’t well-equipped to handle them. She often says the wrong things, but it’s not meant to hurt. The way she tries and misses can be sweetly endearing, though. Remember, her intentions are good.
5. She’ll never come to you asking for reassurance
Her actions are dictated by her thoughts, not her emotional responses. Because she has a difficult time opening up and making herself vulnerable, she isn’t going to be dependent on the support of others. Those who she does, in fact, open up to are special.
6. Those she loves, she loves deeply
She doesn’t particularly like or love anyone outside of her small inner circle. It’s not that she’s asocial or socially awkward, she just interacts with people on a purely functional level. She doesn’t associate degrees of affection for people who she doesn’t let into her life.
This allows for her to be a devoted friend, lover and family member because she directs all of her heart to this meaningful group of people.
7. She releases her tensions through constructive ways
She’s not going to lash out or break down and cry (at least not in front of you). She won’t dump her problems on you or have long, miserable venting sessions.
An unemotional girl channels this energy through productive or creative means, like kick boxing, writing, dancing, painting, playing music. She might avoid deep talks, but she’ll welcome deeply good fun.
8. Outward displays of affection make her uncomfortable
She gets embarrassed for couples who are overly emotional or publicly intimate. But in the most private and protected depths of her soul, she relishes romantic moments with her partner and the many layers of falling in love.
Don’t worry about having her show up to a guy’s night — she knows how to play it cool in front of the boys.
9. There are only a few people she needs validation from
You’ll know if you’re there. She doesn’t need random peripherals reinforcing her self-esteem. In fact, she hardly even thinks about her self-esteem because it’s a non-issue.
To those she seeks approval from, she would never admit. It makes your bond all the more sacred, and the attention she does give all the more coveted.
10. She never noticeably cracks under pressure
This is because she doesn’t over-analyze a situation to the detriment of finding an appropriate solution. Without her flighty emotions bogging things down, she only gets stronger and rises to the challenge. You can always rely on her to see the bigger picture and get things done.
11. She gets the feels
She does indeed have feelings, just not ones that she cares to express to others. She’ll cry, but will never be seen crying in the arms of someone else.
Despite appearing tough on the outside, she has her weaknesses like tragic love stories and plush animals and the beach at dusk. And if you’re lucky, she’ll reveal this side to you.
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