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How do you approach a lady you have been eyeing when she is with her girlfriend(s)

approaching a lady from her pack of friends

So I was wondering how do you approach a girl you have been crushing on or that you suddenly sight on a fateful day and want to chat her up bad but she is with her girlfriend or girlfriendssss. I don’t know if there’s a hard and fast rule to going about this but I can certainly say that just approaching the lady and ignoring her friends is likely not gonna score you pretty with her friends, and most likely would come off as rude, uncool and a turn off to even the girl you are trying to woo. So your best bet may be to carry her and her friends along with the conversation, whichever angle you wanna go at it from.

Perhaps it could start with meeting each of them by complimenting their outfits or getting to know their names, asking general questions such as the schools they both attended or perhaps if they’re studying the same course blah blah. Questions like that which are general in context should make things less awkward and difficult for you to relate with them. Then maybe if she is with two or more friends, that could be a blessing in the sense that should you dare to carry on the conversation with the damsel you are really after exclusively, after of course acknowledging her friends’ presence, then just maybe her lady friends would be cool to code what’s up and give you two some space by keeping themselves busy chatting away, even though they may be eavesdropping stylishly if they are not standing too far away from you and their friend, but that really shouldn’t be a bother. You know the ball is now in your court, and you gotta make it count with the lady and hopefully get her digits in the end just before you release her to her friends or before her girlfriends do the job for you and cut the convo between you two deliberately.

In another scenario, if you are damn sure you are gonna be seeing her again, then you may not necessarily ask for her number just yet, Just work your way into meeting with her first time, then you can make the move for her number the next time which should be relatively easier to get then. And if for some reason she doesn’t release it the first time, understand and don’t give up the chase too soon.

So that’s like my two kobo on the matter o. I imagine it could be awkward and a little tricky but as a sure boy you have to be confident and go for the chic, just being yourself and thinking on your feet spontaneously. Hopefully it turns out fine and you make a good impression in her books and her friends’ too.

And it just might be happily ever after in the end…………..Guy code.*wink*


Life Lessons I took away from ‘Think Like A Man Too’

think like a man toophoto credit: flickr

Apart from the humor and laughter the movie  Think Like A Man Too lavished me so well with, it also taught me some valuable life lessons which I would love to share with you…

1) It  taught me to always put first relationships, to be more elaborate, relationships between love birds , before any major career, business or any other life changing decisions. My point is one should make it a point of necessity to talk about and reach a mutual agreement on any significant issue that could severe the relationship in the long run such as a location splitting between you two. This however, in my opinion, should be reasoned out wisely and thoughtfully because such opportunities might not come around again for all we know…dicey one i hear you say eh!

2) It also taught me that one should not dwell on the negative  past of your partner and using it to judge their present, especially if  your man/woman has re-assured you that he/she has turned a new leaf. The onus then lies on you to trust your partner and enjoy your relationship with him/her, except of course he/she then gives you a concrete reason to question their ‘repentance’.

3) Another moral of the story I picked up, especially with reference to fathers and mothers, to accept the situation and circumstances under which your son or daughter may have chosen who they want to spend the rest of  their life with, and drop the unreasonable sentiments.  Perhaps, the only exception should be when there is a life threatening situation, or perhaps a religious (biblical) pertinent reason(for the spiritually-minded ones)  involved that might back up your being against their union.

4) And finally, on a lighter note, and this one’s inspired by Mr ‘Turn it up’ himself, Kevin Hart, always do well to double check the amount you are paying for to reserve a holiday getaway room so that you don’t have to go desperate and borrow some money from your buddy or bet all your life savings to pay up for the deficit, even though you might be silly lucky to win the bet. Also, don’t undervalue any note or denomination  of seemingly lower value, particularly when placing a bet cos that  just might be your joker to your jackpot! Lol….

And that’s that for that. Let me know your thoughts if you have seen the movie as well, and for those who haven’t, you should go check it out when you can. Adieu!